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IS THE FAMILY wants to get married, then he understands collect stamps or build models of ships.
OUT OF THE GAME? that he needs to look cool, and earn To some extent, this is a reaction to the
НI must say, dating (literally - the enough, and be ready for household same consumer attitude. If there is no
search for potential sexual partners chores and taking care of children. difference, why pay more?"
through special dating sites, sometimes Often on Russian dating sites, men in the But Diana still considers her strategy
interpreted more broadly - an attempt to column "About THEMSELVES" write a to be the only right one, even despite
find a permanent partner or get married) real rider of requirements for a woman. a number of "minuses" that she is fully
- is going through not the best of times While an American will really write about aware of: "We must understand that the
in the USA right now. The institution of himself! What is interesting about it and United States is a different culture and a
the traditional family has been greatly what it can give? In general, of course, different mentality. It can be very difficult
shaken in recent years. In a study recently America has its own distortions in this to understand each other in everyday
published by Pew Research (Pew Research regard. A man in America is a provider of life, and parenting is completely different
Center, Federal District of Columbia, financial services and at the same time, he in America. What is acceptable in Russia
Washington), almost half of the parents understands that he has equal rights and is not always acceptable in America.
surveyed said that it was not too important responsibilities with a woman (cooking, For example, jokes. Those that seem
or not at all important for them whether cleaning, children). At the same time, he normal in Russia are considered rude
their children would get married and have must also be physically attractive, athletic, and tactless there. There may be many
children. Even getting a higher education and healthy. There is a certain consumer conflicts on this ground. You need to be
is considered a more important priority attitude toward men in America. They have ready for this"
than starting a family. In 2018, a survey been living in fierce competition for female
was conducted among teenagers, and attention since birth. Therefore, our Russian DON'T LOOK FOR AN
they also prioritized career satisfaction beauties are especially "in price" there! OCTOPUS IN THE RIVER
rather than marriage and having Some more sad statistics. Sad
children. The fact that the problem exists CAPTAIN'S COMMENT because we, who were brought up
is indicated, among other things, by the IS OBVIOUS in the traditional system of values,
higher age of marriage noted by statistics. "It's a little strange that out of the realize that the traditional family seems
Only a fifth of American parents say that whole giant spectrum of interpersonal to be going into the past is at least
it is important for them that their children relationships related to the family, incomprehensible. But the inexorable
get married and start a family. What the “access to the female genitals” pops statistics are as follows: In 2011, only
vast majority of American parents — about up again and again. It seems that 51% of US citizens were married. It
90%— really want for their children is Americans are simply not interested was an anti-record for the country,
financial independence and the work they in any other aspects of family life. My but today it has already been beaten.
like to do. Writes about this Time.com. experience of communicating with The millennial generation entering
"It's normal that marriages and fertility Americans and a short but very vivid adulthood often simply cannot afford
decline during major crises. You can write experience of working in the USA shows an official marriage and a full-fledged
it off as uncertainty, uncertainty about that everything is not so clear. Yes, family. More than half of births among
the future. People adopt the mentality Americans are fixated on money - asking American women younger than 30
of scarcity and say that the main thing a direct question "How much do you years old today occur out of wedlock.
is survival," says Cohen, noting that the earn" is the norm and is not considered So working in this market is very
number of marriages and births declined tactless. But you also need to understand difficult. But still, I am an optimist and
sharply in the early years of the pandemic- that American society is very diverse. I believe that no matter how events
says Kay Haimowitz, an employee of the Whites in New England behave very develop, it is worth continuing to work
Manhattan Institute, a conservative think differently than Mexicans in Arizona, on yourself, develop and grow, and
tank. Texas is not the same as California. become the best version of yourself.
Diana Norid generally shares the Different traditions and even laws. At But if from time to time you do not
concern of sociologists: "It is very difficult the same time, American society is quite have relationships with men in your
in the marriage market in America right religious, it is unlikely that a wealthy homeland, then maybe you are really
now. A modern woman is financially farmer will marry a girl who, apart from just looking for the wrong place.
independent and is not interested in "breathing with the uterus" and spinning Maybe there's no point in catching
relationships and marriage. Because on a pole, is not capable of anything. an octopus in the river and it's worth
of popular trends — body positivity, The situation described by Diana took getting to the ocean after all?
feminism, and female emancipation — place 15-20 years ago, but now, and At least for a change, pay attention
men are less likely to create any kind of the Americans themselves record it - the to foreign men, and, in particular,
relationship with a woman. That's why so-called “culture of loneliness” has Americans. Just go to a dating site, chat,
they dream of a family. A male in America appeared, when people do not seek see how your relationship can develop
needs to turn inside out just to get access to close relationships, do not aim to create here, outside of your homeland. Maybe
the female's genitals! And if a man really a family, and have children - it is better to that's where your female happiness is?..

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